ummm...that's why we're here together.

i had a really good weekend.

funny story.

so me and my friend lora went to the ole jimador (that's spanish for 'the jimador') for dinner on friday night. we saw a lady from our old church that recognized us and came over to say hi. she was asking what we were into these days, and i promise before we even had our answer out she goes ' SO ARE YOU ALL DATING ANYONE?' 'DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND?'

lora's simple reply...um no, that's why we're here together.

Unfortunately, 1 in 4 conversations i have with people throughout any given day result in me being asked why i don't have a boyfriend.

which immediately makes me think, geez what is so wrong with me that i am 26 and have absolutely no prospects in sight.

of course, i play a large part in bringing about attention to the subject. i feel like i have to make light of the situation and joke about it, b/c truthfully it sucks to revisit multiple times a day why i don't have someone. and to joke about it, makes the subject easier.

to be honest, a lot of my time consists of thinking about when i will meet someone.

and why?

because society puts a lot of pressure on us.

we need to get married as soon as possible.

and start having kids right away.

because that is what the norm is.

everybody does it.

it's hard not to be one of the ones doing it.

and by 'it' i mean marriage and babies.

i appreciate when people try to set me up...

but this is how i envision their check off list to read:

he is a boy-check

you are a girl-check

you're both single- check check

the end.

really?

there needs to be more of a filter there, please!

i shouldn't complain.

that could be all that i need to have in common. i think some people have less :)

some wise (but not really) advice i have received over the years:

-try harder (um ok)

-if you can't picture them naked, it's probably not gonna work out (fair enough)

-loose weight, you're never gonna get a guy being fat (thanks grandma, you always keep me grounded)

-you must be doing something wrong in your walk. get it right and God will send you someone (thank you aaron for debunking (sp?) this myth, you are my hero)

-as soon as you are not looking, it will come your way

-etc etc

frankly, if i had to be in the kind of marriage that i see around me 75% of the time. count me out. co-workers who say they have made a huge mistake, and their husbands call them fat and ugly and they share this with me as tears stream down their faces. women who practically raise their kids on their own, because he is not even really in the relationship anymore,

who go days without speaking to one another,

ones who have no room for God in their relationship.

no thank you.

now...

show me a marriage like my preacher and his wife

or my worship leader and his wife

or my parental units...

and i say, sign me up!

that is what i'm looking for.

that is why my thoughts drift towards a partner in crime.

and believe me, he gets a lot of thoughts...

and prayers.

because i see it working the way God created it to be and it looks nice.

and saturday night, i hung out with my nephew

watching country bears on vhs

and sharing smashed up christmas tree twinkies and juice (more on the bed than actually ingested)

and i hope to do just those things for as many friday and saturday nights that i can

because God is in control

and that is a good feeling.

so yeah, overall...really good weekend :)